Well, to be perfectly honest, I am still trying to figure that out myself. Every time I think I figure it out, it changes….I don’t believe that life, and people, is simply a matter of squishing you into a category or folder and carrying on.
What I do know is that I am a single 33 year old male, born and raised in Africa and now living in Australia. I have an amazing family and circle of friends. Yet, sometimes the engine room just doesn’t run right and one feels a bit out of sorts. I am not naturally a moody person, in fact if you ask the people closest to me they will tell you the exact opposite – I am that loud, extroverted, gregarious, happy, fun, always on the go and sometimes over talkative(I blame Red Wine and Vodka) kinda guy.
If you had to ask me to describe myself I would come up with something similar, perhaps adding a few other cool descriptors – but those words don’t always do the job because that’s just a one dimensional look at me, and lately I have been doing a lot of introspection into the real me, and found that I am actually the above PLUS the exact opposites of the descriptors as well…and that didn’t make me happy. You see, I like to think of myself as an out the box thinker, someone who can make a difference, someone that loves to help people all the time and I thrive on that. But, lately looking at things I realise that I have been overlooking the person that needs help the most – ME. So why listen to the experts who say that you cant be happy all the time, I call BS, and say that I can – because it is who I am best at being…
I only came to this blinding realisation by talking to a great friend and mentor of mine, who asked me “why am I worried? If you are still alive, you can fix anything” he then also sent me a link to a TED video by Shawn Achor who talks about happiness, and the biggest mistake people make trying to be happy. The video struck a chord within me and got me thinking hard about the biggest goal in my life – To be happy! I had to re evaluate everything I understood about happiness and how to be happy, which is one heck of a mindshift for someone who thought that happy was one of the Seven Dwarves.
In the video, I will put the link below for you, Shawn talks about the 21 day challenge to change your perspective on things, start viewing things positively, and take happiness into your own hands. So, I want to take his challenge of 21 days to happiness, and I want to put it online for everyone to see – in my mind that makes me accountable to you, even though I don’t know you. I hope you find it enlightening, or useful, but most of all(and here’s the big hope) you find it inspirational enough for you to find happiness too.
See you on the other side.
Shawn Achors talk on happiness: http://www.ted.com/talks/shawn_achor_the_happy_secret_to_better_work